Meet Paul Bauer | Podcast host, certified master life coach, certified NLP practitioner, and author.

We had the good fortune of connecting with Paul Bauer and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Paul, can you tell us more about your background and the role it’s played in shaping who you are today?
I was born in Denver, Colorado, but I was raised in a small town called Conifer, nestled in the foothills about an hour away from the city. My childhood was spent surrounded by towering trees and rugged mountains, where I would run wild, pretending to be a ninja or Indiana Jones. My friends and I would climb rocks, explore caves, and push ourselves to the limit—without ropes or much care for the danger. It was a place where adventure felt limitless, but also where the harsh winters could freeze your spirit.

When I was 18, I knew I needed a change. The cold winters were relentless, and like many young people, I wasn’t sure what I wanted out of life, but I knew staying put wasn’t an option. So I joined the Navy. It was my way of escaping the icy Colorado mountains, but also a way to buy myself time to figure things out. Plus, it gave me an opportunity to travel the world and earn money for college, something that wasn’t in the cards for my family.

A couple of years into my service, I met someone and, in what I now see as a rush to build that ‘white picket fence,’ I eloped. We barely knew each other, but I was heading out on deployments—three months of training and then six months in the Middle East—and I wanted her to have medical coverage and benefits. It was a rushed decision, and while we stayed married for 14 years and had two beautiful children together, the last half of our marriage was miserable. When she filed for divorce in 2014, I felt relief.

After the divorce, I floundered on the dating scene for a while, looking for something, but not really sure what that was. It wasn’t until I was deep in a four-and-a-half-year relationship that ended, that I realized the person who needed to change was me. That realization sparked a hunger for self-improvement, and I began devouring books on intersexual dynamics and personal growth. That journey helped me understand women better and led to the success I began seeing in dating—and in life.

In 2020, I joined a Facebook group filled with men on similar paths of self-discovery. That group inspired me to launch my podcast, Come On, Man, where I share insights and lessons from my own experiences. Four years later, my podcast has grown to over 24,000 subscribers on YouTube, with new episodes airing three times a week. I’ve also written two books, and my first, Everything I Wish I Knew When I Was 18, even became an Amazon Best Seller in three categories. It’s been an incredible journey, one that started in the mountains of Colorado and led me to where I am today—helping other men navigate their own challenges and relationships.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My work is focused on helping men navigate the complexities of relationships, dating, and personal growth. As a certified master life coach and NLP practitioner, I guide men through transformative processes that allow them to regain control of their lives, relationships, and confidence. What sets me apart from others in this space is my deep understanding of Red Pill praxeology, which has shaped my approach to attraction, mindset, and relationship dynamics. I also bring personal experience to the table—having gone through divorce and learned hard lessons in relationships myself, I don’t just teach theory; I’ve lived it.

One of the things I’m most proud of is my podcast, Come On, Man. It started in 2020 as a way to share what I’d learned, and four years later, we’ve built an audience of over 24,000 subscribers on YouTube. I’ve also written two books, and my first, Everything I Wish I Knew When I Was 18, became an Amazon Best Seller in three categories. Seeing how my work has impacted the lives of men worldwide has been incredibly rewarding.

Getting to where I am today professionally hasn’t been easy. There were moments of doubt, setbacks in relationships, and times when I had to rebuild my own confidence from the ground up. After my divorce, I struggled to find my footing. It took time, but through self-improvement and immersing myself in knowledge, I not only improved my life but realized that I could help others do the same. Overcoming challenges meant confronting hard truths about myself, and by embracing that discomfort, I was able to evolve.

Some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned along the way are the importance of resilience, the need for continuous self-reflection, and the value of understanding human nature. If there’s one thing I want the world to know about me and my brand, it’s that I’m here to help men break free from limiting beliefs and reclaim their sense of self-worth. My journey has been filled with ups and downs, but each challenge was an opportunity to grow—and now, I use those experiences to empower others to do the same.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
If my best friend were visiting, I’d want to give them a taste of what life out here is really like—away from the hustle of big cities and into the heart of Colorado’s hidden gems. While I live out in the middle of nowhere, the nearby towns of Grand Junction and Montrose offer plenty of character and charm.

We’d kick things off with a trip to Montrose, where I’d take them to one of my favorite local dives, The Horsefly. It’s got that classic laid-back vibe, and the food is always on point. After dinner, we wouldn’t have to go far—just across the parking lot is Phelanies, a secret speakeasy that’s easily one of the coolest spots in town. You’ve got to know the password to get in, and once inside, it feels like you’ve stepped back into the prohibition era, with dim lighting, craft cocktails, and a cozy, hidden vibe.

During the day, we’d take in some of the natural beauty the area has to offer—maybe head up to the Black Canyon of the Gunnison for a breathtaking view, or explore some of the local hiking trails. It’s peaceful, remote, and gives you the kind of quiet that’s hard to find anywhere else.

And, of course, I’d show them the rural life—wide open spaces, fresh mountain air, and a slower pace. It’s part of why I created my dating course, No Cold Approach in The Cow Pasture, aimed at men in rural areas like this, where meeting new people sometimes requires a little creativity.

All in all, the week would be filled with good food, great drinks, and the kind of peaceful, off-the-grid experience you can only find out here.

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Success is rarely achieved alone, and I’m incredibly fortunate to have had the support and guidance of some key people along my journey. First and foremost, I’d like to give a huge shoutout to Rollo Tomassi, the author of The Rational Male book series. He took me under his wing and gave me the incredible opportunity to join his Saturday panel show, Rule Zero. That platform allowed me to reach so many people, and I’m forever grateful for his mentorship.

I also want to thank Rian Stone, who has been instrumental in teaching me the true meaning of Red Pill. His insights helped reshape how I approach my work and personal life, offering clarity in a world often filled with misconceptions.

Lastly, I’d like to extend my appreciation to RP Thor for inviting me to write a book in his The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence series. Contributing to that project has been a pivotal moment in my career, and his belief in me means the world.

These individuals have all played significant roles in my journey, and I’m grateful for their influence and support.

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